Fall Check-ins With Your Child
The start of the school year can be a challenging time for children. They are adjusting to new teachers, new classes, different classmates, and the end of summer. On top of that, by October, after-school activities are often in full swing. All of these changes can feel incredibly overwhelming for children, no matter their age.
It is important to create opportunities to check in with your child and let them know that you are there to support them through this transition. A check-in can happen at the dinner table, before bed, or during the car ride home from school. There are gentle ways to check in without making the conversation feel overwhelming. Try asking simple, manageable questions such as, “What was your favorite part of the day?” “Who did you play with at recess?” or “Is there anything you are worried about?”
These questions are personal and specific, making them easier for children to answer than the classic and often-too-broad question, “How was your day?”
It is also important to talk openly about feelings and let your child know that it is okay to feel anxious, sad, or overwhelmed by all of these changes. Validating your child’s feelings and normalizing conversations about emotions can help them feel safe expressing what they are experiencing rather than bottling it up.
While some children may adjust to these changes with ease, others may need a little extra support. Regular check-ins can reassure your child that you are there for them while also giving you an opportunity to stay connected to how they are doing socially, emotionally, and academically.
Signs Your Child May Need Extra Support
It is normal for children to experience some stress or worry during a transition. However, if you notice ongoing or significant changes in your child’s behavior, mood, or daily functioning, they may need some additional support. Some signs to look out for include:
Increased irritability, anger, or emotional outbursts
Frequent complaints of stomachaches or headaches, particularly before school
Difficulty sleeping or changes in their sleep routine
Changes in appetite
Avoiding school, activities, or social situations they typically enjoy
Increased worry, sadness, or tearfulness
Difficulty concentrating or a noticeable change in school performance
Withdrawing from family or friends
Frequently expressing that they feel overwhelmed or unable to cope
If these changes persist or begin to interfere with your child’s daily life, consider reaching out to your child’s pediatrician, school, or a mental health professional for additional guidance and support. Sometimes, having a safe space to talk through their feelings can help children better understand and navigate the challenges they are experiencing.
Samantha Sternberg is passionate about helping children and families navigate life’s challenges with greater confidence, resilience, and emotional understanding. Her role is to offer a safe and compassionate space where her clients can be seen, heard, and supported.
Samantha is trained in working at the intersection of family conflict and child development, and can help children and teens express themselves in healthy ways. Her approach is child centered, trauma informed, and grounded in evidence based practices.
