What to Expect During Supervised Visitation
Supervised visitation is when a parent visits with their child only when supervised by a neutral third party – who could be a trained professional like a social worker or a qualified family member or close friend. This arrangement is typically court ordered and is used to ensure the safety and wellbeing of the child.
However, the presence of a supervisor could feel extremely awkward, especially the first few visits. The thought of someone watching and possibly documenting your every move can feel invasive and uncomfortable, making it hard to act natural. Though supervised visitation can be a challenging process to navigate, it can also be a safe space for you and your child to connect and build trust. Here are some things to expect during supervised visitation and how to make the best of it:
● A supervisor will be present the entire visit. They may sit close by and quietly observe your interactions but will not interfere unless necessary. They may take notes during your visit or complete a report after the visit. These reports will be sent to the referring parties.
● There may be rules to follow, depending on the supervisor and the agency. For example, no cell phone use except for emergencies or with approval from the supervisor.
● There are often time limits imposed. In the beginning, it is common for there to be short and frequent visits of 1-2 hours at a time, a few days a week. The visits may extend in duration and frequency as time goes on. The supervisor will let you know when the time is coming to an end during a visit.
● Visits may take place at a visitation center which often has a playroom with toys or at a therapist’s office. They could also take place at the noncustodial parent’s home or a public space like a playground. A court order will typically specify a location.
● As visits go well and extend in duration and frequency, they may become less restrictive. This process has a gradual progression.
● Bring appropriate activities for your child like books, games, and toys. Having activities they love will create a comfortable and warm environment while giving you something to do during your visit.
● Remember to be patient, consistent, and focus on building a connection with your child.
Supervised visitation may not be what you envisioned for yourself or for your child, however, it is a chance to rebuild and strengthen your bond with your child in a way that is supportive and safe.
Contact us to learn more about supervised visitation with Main Line Family Matters.
